bHi my name is Devi, I'm a divorcee and
i met a Muslim guy online 5 years a go and we have fall in love
with eachother. We wanted to get married to each other but I was
in India and he is from Bangladesh working in UAE. We use to
talk everyday and he told me that he will come to meet me and
then marry me. He went on his holiday to Bangladesh where he got
married to some other girl. I came to know that after 8 months
of his marriage from his brother. I was surprise to hear that as
we didn't have any contact once he left UAE for his holidays.
Any how I tried and got his number from a common friend and
talked with him. He told me that he was not able to show his
face to me as he ditched me. He told a big story stating that as
he is a muslim and has to see his family and cuture he didnt
marry me and got married to a muslim girl who was his family
friend as she loved him alot. She did cut her nerves for him. I
didnt wanted to trust him for that but still I loved him so I
started talking to him again as a friend and I dont know when
again we started loving each other.
After having this 5years relation finally he is ready to
marry me but without telling to his family and wife as he has
kid also. He doesnt want me to change my religion, he does not
want me to change anything but has only one demand that I have
to stay with him wherever he stays but in a different house. He
will bring his first family in the same city but I need to
adjust most of it i.e. whenever he can give me time I need to
adjust that and if we have our kids then I need to make them
understand our religion.
I'm scared of this decision as he is saying that if anyone
comes to know of our relation and if he has to make a decision
to choose any one of us then he will choose his first wife and
kid, not me and my kids. He is saying that no one will ever
know of our relation so I should not be worried about this but
I'm much worried for my future as I'm hindu and if I'm leaving
my family for him then he should always support me in any
condition.
Please suggest me wht should I do in this as he wants to
legally marry me but even dont want to support me in difficult
situation.
-Sapna
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