Child Psychologist
Keywords: Psychologist | Child | Parents | Schools | Disclipline
| Behaviour
Many parents shudder at the idea of showing their child to a
child psychologist. What! My child is not crazy! Why does he
need to see a psychologist? And then the old school of thought
so prevalent in our society. Our parents, grandparents and great
grandparents never saw psychologists, and they were fine,
weren't they? This is just a silly fad!
Most people, by they time they become parents, forget what it
was like to be a child. When you are a child, you often get
taken for granted. Your opinions are discarded, and your wishes
don't count. How often have you seen children crying because
their parents took them shopping or to run some errands and then
ignore the child's pleas to go back home? How often do you shut
a child up by saying the words "Because I said so!" without
providing a reasonable explanation? While all this certainly
does not constitute bad parenting, it may provide insights into
your child's behaviour. Childhood is a complicated time. A
child's demands are high, and these demands tend to get
overlooked often. Your child has to go 'urgently' to a friend's
party, while you take your time coming home, wrapping up the
present and dropping him off, with the result that your child
starts crying and you laugh off your child's tears saying "Don't
be silly, we will be there in some time." After all, in your
mind, it is not important, but in your child's mind, this party
was going to be the best party of her life, and it was the most
important event ever for your child.
These are the years when your child is developing his
personality, and the way you bring him up plays a crucial part
in his personality development.
Discipline
Most parents believe that all you really need to do is
discipline your children and at the same time, show them that
you love them, and that should be more than enough. However, it
isn't. Your child may grow up to be polite, well mannered and
intelligent, but he may still have some self-esteem issues. You
will find that such a child only truly builds his personality
once he leaves home to study in another city or country. If you
are a strict disciplinarian, make it a point to be equally
disciplined yourself when it comes to coping with your child's
reasonable demands. If you make it a point to ensure your child
finishes his homework before going to that party, also make it a
point to be there on time to drop him off and pick him up.
There may be certain things you say and do as a well meaning
parent, which causes your child to feel bad about himself
through no fault of your own. 8 year old Aryan would flare up
everytime his parents asked him to clean up his room, because
this feeing was compounded with a feeling of guilt that he
hadn't yet cleaned it up, a feeling of inadequacy for being
unable to clean it up, and a feeling of anger directed towards
the parents, who just didn't understand that he wanted to clean
it up and has cleaned up a part of it, but the just do not
appreciate that. You as a parent are totally justified in your
demands, but your child is going through a range of emotions
which he cannot discuss with you or with his friends, as not
many young children discuss their parental problems with their
friends. The best person to discuss this with would be a child
psychologist. The psychologist serves as a medium between you
and your child, and will be able to accurately convey your
child's feelings to you, and you would be able to modify your
behavior accordingly. In addition, children feel important when
they are being listened to, and when their feelings and wants
are been taken into consideration. Often a parent may be too
busy or otherwise occupied to listen to their child, and while
they may not realise it, their child may feel extremely hurt by
what they perceive as a snub. Yes, they will forgive you and go
on to play elsewhere, but when it happens a second, third and
fourth time, it will certainly show up in their personality
development. A child psychologist will be able to bring this to
your attention.
How often should your child see a psychologist is entirely upto
you, but a child should see one often enough, in order to
develop a rapport. You could perhaps arrange for your child to
visit the school psychologist once a week or once in two weeks,
especially if you feel your child displays feelings of anger and
aggression, is extremely shy or is weak in his studies. Do not
under any circumstances convey to your child that it is a big
deal to be seeing a psychologist. It is not, and many parents
whose children regularly visit psychologists swear by them.
According to Nita Sharma, whose both children see a psychologist
once in two weeks, "Every child should see a psychologist. I
don't believe that something should be 'wrong' with your child."
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Recent comments on This
Name: Chetan,
Country: India
Hi, I think the critical first step is to realize that there can
be many many issues and influences which can mentally disturb or
impact a child, and obviously each of these is not "madness". In
fact that is the difference between psychology and psychiatry -
an important difference to understand. I think the article on
the India psychology blog at http://enricheducation.com /blog/articles/blog.html
explains the difference very well. cheers.
Name: Meghna.Bhagwati ,
Country: India
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Name: Meghna Bhagwati,
Country: India
Dear Viewers, this is Meghna Bhagwati(Child Counsellor), wanted
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So plese me on this new mail address.
Name: Meghna,
Country: India
Dear Dees, You can contact Dr. Meghna Bhagwati. She is a
Counsellor as well as Child Pstchologist in jaipur. She is
really good and gentle Psychologist. She deals with every issues
of child and helps in Counselling the Parents as well.Hope it
will help you.You can Mail or Post your any type of Querry or
Problems regarding your child she'll help you.She can be
contacted at meghnabhagwati@yahoo.com.
Name: meghna,
Country: India
hi
Name: Mina Dilip,
Country: India
A very well-written article, indeed! As a practicing child
psychologist, I have encountered this attitude among many
parents. I fervently hope that this article reaches far and wide
so as to change this kind of restrictive thinking among parents
and that more and more children can reap the benefits of meeting
a child psychologist.
Name: Alok Kumar,
Country: India
I also contacted Dr. Dherendra Kumar for my son in Noida. He is
gentle and caring. We benefited a lot from his work.
Name: Alok.Kumar ,
Country: India
Dear Dees, As you want a teen psychologist. You can contact Dr.
Dherandra kumar, he is a Clinical and Child psychologist in
Delhi. From my personal experience, as i consulted him for my
children, he is really a good child psychologist. He deals with
teen issues, also. Hope it will help you. He can be contacted at
dr@psyindia.com
Name: Sumit,
Country: India
hi jatinder/alka - Dr. Geetanjali Kalia (child psychologist) in
Ludhiana can be reached at geetanjliz@gma il.com.
Name: Sangita.Dagia ,
Country: India
Hi, I am Clinical Psychologist based in ahmedabad, Besides
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Name: Sangita.Dagia ,
Country: India
Hi, I am Clinical Psychologist based in ahmedabad, Besides
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Name: lakshmi,
Country: india
maybe u could sdd few experiences of childrens meeting with
their psychologist
Name: tilashia,
Country: usa
i hate this article because i couldn't even read it so i don't
know what article yall talkin bout. anyway to start off with,i'm
doing a report on 3 careers that we are interested in. so i
decided to look up more about a child's psychologist. well there
wasn't any information on it that i could find so now i don't
really know what a child psychologist does. that all folks
Name: Hemal Gandhi,
Country: india
great insight into why a parent must see a psychologist wen need
persists,mention of a few psychologists name n numbers would
help the estranged parents
Name: Amina,
Country: india
i think that's an wonderful article.
Name: Reshma,
Country: india
it is very good article.
Name: ann,
Country: india
opened my eyes to my tenager's felings and views. i ahd
forgotten that while discipling we ahve to consider their point
of views as well.
Name: Isantosh sharma,
Country: india
i want to meet child psycholigist
Name: Vaishu,
Country: malaysia
i like this article very much and i am very interesting about it
because i want to be child pschologist.i know those childrens
feelings because i'm one of them. but now i'm fine and i'm very
confident that i will be a child psychologist one day although
i'm student now.
Name: Manish Gupta,
Country: india
great article to be read. however i would appreciate if i can be
known some good books on child psychology.
Name: claudia,
Country: usa
i think its a pretty article.
Name: michelle,
Country: usa
i need to find information on the job of a psychologist
Name: Jamie,
Country: usa
i think this is a great article, but i actually have a
question.... do you think that children attend a psychologist,
that there parents should also see one as well? if you could
give me your input or if you know of any sites i could find
information on that topic it would be very helpful thank you
very much!!!!
Name: Ruth,
Country: usa
i am disappointed in my search for a child psychologist. i have
found a lot of articles supporting why my child should see a
psychologist (and his school has recommended he see one), but i
can't find any sites that support finding a child psychologist.
Name: seema,
Country: india
can u pl let me know a good child psychologist in jaipur,india
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