Love
marriage or arranged is still a questionable issue among the Indian
community. Let me confess, I consider myself very liberal, I myself
would want my daughter to hold on a couple of more years to make her
decision. No matter how clear-headed the child is he or she still
needs a little maturity to make the most critical decision of
her/his life.
Is love marriage better or the arranged? What is the basis of a
communion between two people? When a man asks a woman out on a date
the foremost physical attraction is the deciding factor. So is the
case in an arranged marriage. However, in a love marriage timing is
important. People are able to spend more time together and get to
know each other better. Well! Sometimes, it needs a lot more to be
able to get under the skin. When two people are in love, they are at
their best to impress the other person. They wear the best clothes;
they are at their best behavior and project a lot of things that
they are actually not. Our society is structured that way we are
expected to be polite in public. It takes a while between couples to
shed the veil. Most of the time, even after going out for a few
years, when we actually live together, we are in for surprises.
Actually, even after living together for almost 25 years, couples
are still discovering each other. This is the beauty of
relationships and the mystery of a human mind.
In an arranged marriage similarly the yes or no is based on the
appearance of the partner. They then try to know each other in a
couple of meetings they have before the final commitment. However,
the parents make the background check. Let me not discard the
importance of a good family background here and of course the
financial stability. People who go for arranged marriages are not at
much of a disadvantage as said earlier no matter what it needs a lot
of time to actually know the other person.
I would say in a love marriage, after a few dates sometimes or
certain duration of time, couples make a commitment. At any point,
couples are not bound by a legal document or a ceremony where as in
an arranged marriage its not so. It might appear while people are in
a love and not married yet, it's easier to get out of a
relationship. But it is not so. Once two people are in love and are
committed it takes a lot of emotional bruise to break away.
Love marriage or arranged, it takes two people really responsible
honest and committed to succeed. Whether it's a love marriage or
arranged, it needs a lot of effort to work a marriage. Getting
married is a complete package. One just doesn't marry the person as
such but his habits, his family, his emotional problems, his
background, his experiences, his career and lot of other things that
are required to be dealt with.
